A Lesbian Feminist Any Straight Libertarian Could Love


Photo courtesy Reid Martin

Hearts and kisses to the fabulous Camille Paglia, who, on second reading is a new favorite writer in my roster. I don’t care what she is talking about, and clearly neither does she, it’s all so fabulously written, punchy, true, lighthearted and fierce all at the same time.

Mike suggested I read her stuff after I quizzically asked him what he thought about feminism. Kate Hutchinson’s posts often present the topic so I’ve been dipping my toe into the online feminist offerings. I still don’t entirely understand the “feminist position."

Feminism seems to range from extremists who have abortions under the guise that they are saving the planet, calling motherhood selfish and babies parasites, which are stupid and tired attempts to shock people; to women who smartly reveal gender inequality in pay, education, or encourage women to eschew perfection presented in magazines, something I can support. Paglia is pegged as a “feminist that other feminists love to hate.” Great, this should be interesting!

At first I thought Paglia was dizzying. Too many words, too abrasive, too much. Today she is just right. Maybe it’s a mood I’m in or maybe it’s that I can respect someone who can make fun of Clinton and McCain in the same breath! How absolutely refreshing! Her cerebral and irreverent musings are just my cup of tea. Do I have a thing for older women? Perhaps. I also recently fell in love with Gina Barreca's writing for The Chronicle Review.

In addition to writing pieces that are both catchy and insightful, geared towards online audiences, these women are published, tenured professors respected in their fields. You don’t hear an older intellectual female voice that doesn't take itself too seriously all that often…or maybe I just don’t know where to look. They remind me of my mother, who I simultaneously adore and cannot comprehend, and they inspire me as women I’d like to be like one day, forceful, funny. They also seem to handle their critics with finesse and a pleasant sort of detachment that belies any sense of personal injury to their egos when attacked as they often are. In short, they don’t seem to care all that much what people think.

I wish grandmothers wrote blogs. I want to know about their lives, I’m weary of hearing rainbow visions of Gen Y. I want to know the crinkled black and white pasts, the failed fairy tales and the unexpected triumphs. Grandmothers I know don’t talk all that much, they often smile, quietly, slyly…as if they finally know life’s grand secret and chuckle to themselves about how worked up the rest of the world is.

Anyways. I feel so undignified snarking about my problems when posed against women like Barreca or Paglia. I feel like I need a big red magic marker to slash through my writing and ideas. I want to take my ideas to the chopping block and see what they are made of. I suppose that is what I'm doing. I read writers that can both inspire or infuriate and whether or not I fit in with them then it’s exciting to figure out why.



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Yoga School Drop-Out


In response to my angry rant post, Sare-Bear wrote, “Have you even TRIED yoga?”

I laughed out loud at that one. Yes I have, but yoga and I have a long, complicated history.

My sister has practiced yoga for a long time. She has a calm and peaceful disposition which I always thought she was born with, but perhaps there is something about her I don’t know.


In high school she introduced me to my first pose, a kneeling torso twist. I complained it hurt, she encouraged me to be patient, and only go as far as was comfortable. But I felt upset and didn’t know where it was coming from, started crying and ended up walking away from yoga for a few years.

In college I decided I to try yoga again. I attended a liberal school and I thought perhaps yoga would give me something brilliant to say at the frat party I once attended. I printed instructions off the internet and started practicing on my own until someone at the gym practically lunged across the stretch room to save me from snapping my neck doing the inverted shoulder stand. He said I was going to kill myself unless I got some proper instruction.

Scared stiff, (ironic, huh?) I signed up for a Basic Yoga class. The teacher was a pro, rather bendy and upbeat. She was so pleased with the class’ overall skill level that she had us doing full headstands by week 2 for a “special treat.” So special I dropped out by week 3. My poor little neck couldn’t take it anymore.

I would do a pose here and there or be invited to a class or two, but would find the whole experience of sitting, waiting, stretching to be excruciating. Not just on my body, but on my mind too.

I know – all the more reason to practice.

My most recent attempts at a yoga practice were about a year and a half ago, I would download the free “Yogamazing” clips on iTunes, again recommended by my sister – and I would still recommend them. The instructor, Chaz, is funny and the clips are short enough to be done any time. Unfortunately Chaz really loves Downward Dogs, which were killing my elbows, exacerbating a pre-existing neck and back injury, and I didn’t want to do yoga anymore.

But I’d be lying if I said that’s the only reason I stopped. I know there are plenty of poses that accommodate my problems. I don’t do it for the same exact reasons I don’t do the other things my family recommends with any regularity: prayer, meditation. All three of these things involve being quiet, still, contemplative. Lately, if I’m somehow trapped in a place where I have to sit quietly with nothing to do, like an airplane or at the Secretary of State, I start crying uncontrollably. In public. I start crying unless I’m so busy that I’m distracted from all my feelings. I’m scared that if I stop long enough I’ll snap, and I don’t mean my neck.


I decided last week to take a nap after work. This was a monumental decision as I haven’t taken a nap in years, with the exception of the time I inadvertently drank decaf coffee in the morning. I lay down, and within a minute or two was wailing uncontrollably. My husband, arriving home a few minutes later, rushed to the bedroom, he thought maybe I’d broken my leg or something…nope, just your garden variety nervous breakdown.

Obviously my feelings of grief are a major part of this extreme behavior, but even before my father passed away, sitting silently was uncomfortable, challenging.

There is a great quote by the Catholic apologist, G.K. Chesterton, and while he is speaking specifically about Christianity, I think it could be applied to any serious disciplines:

“The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting; it has been found difficult and left untried."

So. Yes. I have untried yoga.

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The Journey, Not the Destination

My last post chastised Rebecca Thorman for prodding people and being too positive. I woke up on the right side of the bed this morning and decided to give a shot at answering one of her uncomfortable questions earnestly.
She says,

"And now the challenge...
The discussion surrounding Generation Y should center on how we can leverage our weaknesses into strengths and how we can use our unique talents effectively in our professional development, entrepreneurial, social, public policy, and philanthropic endeavors.
So please, tell me:
How can Generation Y show respect and learn from previous generations so that we may fully engage in meaningful interactions to our mutual benefit? How can we work together to fulfill our dreams?
Really, I want to know the answer."


First to clarify, I think people might confuse my feelings of negativity about life philosophy with being an unhappy person. I’m not always unhappy, but I show what I hope is a healthy discontent for falsehoods. In other words, I used to be really gung ho about possibilities, positive thinking, goal setting and thinking that these goal marks in jobs, education, relatioships, goal weights would make me happy, even marginally so. Nope, never. Not once has any achievement resulted in any sort of sustained level of satisfaction. I'm thinking I'm not alone. Okay, repeatedly sitting on the couch watching action films and eating ice cream with my husband comes really close - but no one is going to pay me to do that!!!

I no longer believe in the delusions that a more or less permanent state of happiness or self-fulfillment is an achieveable life goal, even if you do great things. There are plenty of great, talented people who decided to off themselves because they hated their success, they hated that it didn't satisfy them and I'm not willing to fall into those mental traps.

It’s got to be about the journey, not the destination, because you might never get there and that has to be okay. I think the best to hope for is some sanity in life and to be a decent person with good relationships. I really think so. Some sanity and some gratitutde that you are allowed to roam the planet at all, more specifically in this country. The US is a really wonderful place for a young person to be. But I don’t think we are owed anything by our birth right. And this is where I answer Rebecca’s questions to our generation.

They have made me think less about myself and more about my mother. It’s not because I’m some sort of ultimately benevolent soul, but she’s a Baby Boomer, and like we keep hearing across the nation, in need of financial assistance that the government falls short of providing. Now – multiply this phenomenon across the nation, and then check some of the candidate's policies on social reforms and prepare to become very, very scared. Obama for example, plans to "take the caps" off of the current social security, medicare/medicaid deducations that you see on your paychecks. What that means is: currently the government cannot legally take more than they already do. Obama thinks that such protections of personal property (your income) is unecessary, that the government should be able to take whatever it needs from your paycheck to fund already failing programs. Does no one think this is a problem?

If you don’t know what I’m talking about – look at your next pay stub. If you want to get really upset, here is a little math problem to use. Take the amounts the government gets from your paycheck, and divide them into the total amount of your paycheck, what is left over is the percentage that it being removed. For example. If your paycheck is $1,000, and the taxes amount to $250, that is a 25% hit. For anyone who is used to their current rates, get ready for the government unlocking the cash drawer on our pay and dipping in for whatever they need at the moment. The reality is, Generation Y is going to pay for this, one way or another, it's unavoidable.

So. I’m proposing that Generation Y stop thinking about themselves and start thinking about this. What can we do to create security for the older, and younger generations, simultaneously? People say that the Baby Boomers neglected to adequately prepare for their futures, maybe they did. Maybe they didn’t know, maybe they were promised pensions, and maybe they thought their spouses would never die and their children would be eager to support them. I don’t know. But I do know that unless we take action and choose how we are going to take care of this problem as private citizens, the government will do it for us, they will not ask nicely and it will not be done efficiently. Anyone who has been to a Secretary of State’s office having met the glares and attitudes of the workers there will know what I mean. There is no incentive for such a facility to process 500 requests versus 50. And when you have a father dying of cancer who is in desperate need of Medicaid, the chances of getting a response from the Department of Health are even more slim. (Anyone excited for nationalized health care? That's for another post.) So, who’s got an idea?

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I'm Shouting, Can You Hear Me?

Rebecca Thorman, of Modite, says she feels like she is in a movie when it comes to her job. In fact, she wrote a post in response to my urging her for more info. She loves her job. And I'm truly happy for her.

But because I’m a cynic I immediately wonder what percentage of the time she feels like that, thinking, “Without that information there is no way for me to adequately measure my life against hers…” And this is where my glaring problem shines in all it’s, uh, brilliance.

I sometimes feel like I’m in a movie too. As it relates to my marriage, there are times when I’m in a sweeping love story, my heart full of adoration for a man who was lunatic enough to love me back. At times I feel I could die right then and there, fulfilled. However, as a friend of mine recently noted, "You are married to the love of your life and you're still not happy!" as we mused about discontent we were facing. I have problems even a wonderful husband can't fix. Most of the time I run at a frenetic pace, evaluating my life and job, measuring paychecks against dreams of fulfilling careers and parenthood, and grasping at threads in my relationships with family and friends.

Most of the time I am not a movie, but a mess. And this my grand thrust, that not only is life not about pleasing oneself, but it's simply not possible nor sustainable. It's about putting one foot in front of the other on whatever little path you care to eke out. Life isn’t about chasing a constant state of bliss, in one's job or love life. No matter how great your job or love life is.

And because I feel this way, I'm baffled and oddly enraged when I read Rebecca's blog. I cannot put my finger on where this rage comes from but, I found this quote by author William Gass on one of my new favorite blogs by Professor Gina Barreca which at least makes me feel like I'm not alone:

" ‘Getting even is one great reason for writing,’ said William Gass in a Paris Review interview. ‘I write because I hate. A lot. Hard. And if someone asks me the inevitable next dumb question, ‘Why do you write the way you do?’ I must answer that I wish to make my hatred acceptable because my hatred is much of me, if not the best part. Writing is a way of making the writer acceptable to the world — every cheap, dumb, nasty thought, every despicable desire, every noble sentiment, every expensive taste.‘ "

That’s my hatred I think Mr. Gass is talking about. I do not hate Rebecca, but I get jostled because she keeps prodding where I’m giving up. I hate that. She seems too hopeful, too liberal. Too much like the person I used to be. I’m mad at myself, so it’s no wonder I get mad at her too. I’m thinking, “I’ve become responsible and fallen in line…shouldn’t everyone else?” What I really want to say begins with, “Do you understand…” and ends with, “f*ck f*ck f*ck f*ckety f*ck!” But I’ll spare everyone the full diatribe.

I know she doesn’t write her posts with my specific situation in mind, she is catering to a broad audience, people with perhaps less psychological stress than myself. But don’t feel bad for me, that’s not what I’m trying to get at. I don’t feel sorry for myself. I keep going. I don’t give up, but I feel entitled to a bad attitude.

I have sought relief at every turn. My husband and his family suggest faith, a therapist I recently saw suggested a low-dose anti-depressant, my mother suggested meditation and my sister suggested kundalini yoga. I don’t think these things can help me. But you know what does? This blog. Writing, getting angry, putting a paragraph or ten on the internet for someone out there to read, ignore, hate, find salvation in, or whatever.

That’s why I think my name’s pseudo-Chinese translation immediately resonated with me: Shouting to Quiet the Thunder. It’s a neat little metaphor for my life. You will never out-shout thunder: it’s louder, it’s bigger, it could crush you. (Sonically speaking.) But like David and Goliath, just keep on trying. Keep fucking trying, you know?

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New Look to the Blog

So my husband was kind enough, after an evening of carousing to help lift my post-B mood by teaching me how to use Adobe Photoshop until the wee hours of the morning.

He is truly a wonderful man.

The fruits of our labors can be seen in the revamped Shouting to Quiet the Thunder look. So if you start to see some rather psychadelic things happening, you will know why, I'm testing my design legs.

I've also been begging him to contribute to the blog because he's a lot funnier and less fatalistic than I am, so I thought it could be sort of refreshing. We'll see about that..."

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Nesting

I just got around to reading the February issue of domino magazine, the guide to living with style. I have not been reading it religiously, as anyone who has visited my home might guess, but I have been whipped into a frenzied sort of state by the tromp l'oeil custom made wallpapers from Iksel.com.

There is one called "Kubilai's Tent" (no pics though!) which is wallpaper and ceiling application made to look like you are inside of an old dirty, striped, desert tent. Fucking cool. I want it.

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There's No Crying In Grad School

So I think I got a B on my last exam. Boo f-ing hoo. My teacher is inconsistent and his exams are poorly written, but to be totally honest, I'm beat up and didn’t study as hard as usual. Sleep evades me, I'm frequently emotionally crippled by visions of my father's last days, my mother’s financial position is precarious and I spend my time imagining multi-million dollar businesses or CEOships I could eventually win to save her and the rest of my family from the wayward legacy of my father’s inadequacies as a provider. He was a wonderful, benevolent man who gave every ounce of himself, so it is easy to forgive him for going bankrupt and not quite crawling out of the wreckage.

But if anyone out there wonders why I ever turned from an opera singer to a financier, there’s your whopping clue. I don’t worship money, and while I freakishly enjoy accounting, I don’t have flair for business. I want to save my family. Of course I’m failing miserably and most would argue it’s not my job…but I’ve convinced myself that someone has to drive themselves crazy trying.

So the effects of foreign direct investment on international balance of payments were the last things on my mind and I botched my exam. I'm a bit on the demented side when it comes to my grades, as I feel they hold passage to a better life. Unlike naturally smart people, I have to work unusually hard to learn and retain information. I don't mean to say smart people don't work hard, but I have noticed a marked difference between how much my colleagues study versus myself. Happily, obsessive compulsive skills I've acquired in other areas of my life have greatly contributed to my academic excellence. But dear readers, I have paid dearly for my GPA, for my squeaky clean reputation.

When my classmates were out drinking and having sleepovers with frat boys, I was usually home on weekends studying. I deluded myself into thinking such tomfoolery was overrated, but the truth is I was/am so afraid of screwing up that I didn't dare take it easy on myself, have a beer, kiss a boy whose name I didn't know (okay, that did happen a few times...) But overall, I eschewed fun for mental flogging, and any time I veered off the golden path I was carving out for myself I’d double back with renewed vigor.

Until recently.

After I saw my test results I was mad for about 60 seconds, called my husband in an angry tirade, shed a few tears, then I heard the voice of my father. “Honey, it’s okay, you did the best you could, and next time you can just study more. No big deal. Don’t cry.”

I started laughing because that's exactly what he would have said, put on Pandora and in God’s grand irony, Rolling Stones’ Satisfaction {I can't get no...} started blaring. I, raccoon-eyed, wearing ill-fitting flannel pants and black t-shirt in desperate need of washing started dancing around, cleaning up, smiling to myself and thinking of my dad.

I suppose I have my answer. I need rest, renewal, and to say “fuck it” to shackles of unachievable perfection because I’ve put myself off long enough. I don’t mean to imply I don’t ever treat myself to things I want, but that’s just it, I’ve created a life based on financial survival and reward, piling up savings, paying off debt, and while I've been known to splurge on a Betsey Johnson dress to mark my achievements, but what I really want to do is quit my job and not leave my house until I’m good and rested.

Yeah. So. That’s all.

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That Guy From Maroon 5 Sounds Like a New Version of Phil Collins

That's all. I needed to get that off my chest.

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To Kate With Love



"Hitting the Books"

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I Love Foreigners


I’m a xenophile. I get excited when I hear a foreign accent. Something about it makes the person seem more exciting, more intelligent, or more mysterious, sometimes dangerous; all depends on the country or ethnicity. I love that joke about heaven, hell, and all the different cultures. It's cheesy, but you've got to admit it's funny.

I called a customer service line today and no doubt was connected to a call center in Bangalore. An Indian female with a British-tinged accent answered. After she politely (with impeccably timed elocution) asked me my name, she referred to me as “Miss Milena” for the duration of the call. Swoon. I felt like I was on that Spaceship Earth ride at Disney World, seeing the electric synapses firing all the way to India and I feel like I’m part of the global revolution. I wonder if she’s vegetarian, or likes chicken tikka masala as much as I do. I didn't ask.

I wonder, do other people feel the same? Or do they shudder when they hear an accent bemoaning how are jobs are being shipped overseas? I think of the woman I spoke with, wondering if her job affords a lifestyle not previously available to her. After reading Thomas Friedman’s, The World is Flat, I am happy about that possibility, even if an American had her job just a few years ago. That is if I truly believe in the benefits of a global economy, diversity, and “classical” liberal ideals. I'm not afraid of foreign achievement, I welcome competition, realizing it will allow the world to grow leaps and bounds. I guess some people think the playing field isn't level arguing, "How can we compete with people who will do our job for half the cost"? I would have to wonder, "Why would an employee expect to be paid twice as much for services that someone else will do just as well for half?"

And what about fair labor wages? I agree that some populations work in harsh conditions, but who am I to decide if it's an "unfair" deal? If the alternative is work for $0.05 an hour and feed their family...or have no job and survival is bleak...the $0.05 is a Godsend for many of these workers. If you impose trade restrictions or wage floors on ABC Company which sources foreign labor, they may not be able to afford to do business, period, pricing them out of the market. So the ABC Company folds, losing whatever U.S. jobs they had, and foreign labor gets nothing, not even the $0.05 that both parties would have agreed upon. No one wins. And if the Democrats get their way, there will be a lot more trade restriction, er, revision in the future.

Anyways. I wish people wouldn’t give overseas friends a hassle while they are trying to make a buck. Why is it a "zero sum game" or "my nation against yours"? There are a lot more long term benefits of globalization than the short term incoveniences of temporarily getting paid less, needing to get re-trained and better educated, then getting paid more. It works like this. Factory or call center workers train for jobs requiring more brain work. People like me re-train and move up to management, become professors, business owners; those above me could become CEOs, entrepreneurs, or get advanced degrees, learning to think more creatively, problem-solve, or become doctors, scientists, whatever. I'm talking simplistically, but you get the idea. Free up many people from grunt work to doing work that matters more. Creative, complex work, that's what the U.S. minds are great at! Not to mention, some of the greatest minds in the U.S. are from foreign countries...Jesus, you'd think people would want a smarter, better trained population - we haven't yet found cures for cancer, AIDS, MS...but we are griping that we can't make $25/hour screwing on bolts or picking up phones...

I’m reminded of a funny story:

My old hairdresser’s assistant, to most appearing to be a short, skinny, white dude with a fake tan, drove to inner city Detroit because he had a hankering for corn rows and there was a great salon that did them. On his way back from the appointment he stopped at a light and an African-American woman driving next to him rolls down the window, starts laughing hysterically, screaming out the window…“Where you from? I ain’t never seen no white boy with corn rows!”
The assistant replies, “I’m not white, I’m Cuban.”
Woman, “What?”
Assistant, “Cuban, I’m Cuban!”
The woman, still laughing, “Well shit honey, we all human!” And drives off…

We're all human, let's have a little love for the rest of the world.

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Nothing Like Ethnic Fighting on Your Summer Vacation

I hope to God, for all parties involved that the Kosovo declaration of independence goes well. There is so much mixed up history, numerous atrocities on both sides (Christian and Muslim), that I'm not well-versed enough to claim to have a position other than cautious.

Mike and I have been planning to visit Croatia and Bosnia-Herzegovina this summer. For anyone who wonders why I'd want to go to an area that is still recovering from war and possibly on the verge of another one - it's my father's homeland. They are wonderful places, rich with culture, people, stories, experiences. I've been there twice before, I love it, and part of me calls it home too.

And unless there is a civil war in Serbia, I'm pretty sure we're going. I mean, we bought our tickets, but thank God for travel insurance.

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How to Get Your Own Attention

Penelope Trunk just wrote a post on happiness and self-discipline. She believes self-discipline is hard to come by. I wrote an angry sort of rant about Darfur in the comments. I know, I don’t always make sense.

I agree with her to a point. I don’t think it’s having self-discipline that is the real hard part. Self-discipline comes naturally to those who are genuinely excited about a goal and see the outcome as attainable. It occurred to me that a lot of my problems with achieving self-discipline has to do with remembering to be do things. I’m a pretty motivated gal, and hence, ridiculously busy. I work full time, go to school part time, work part time, work out part time, you get the idea. Discipline is not usually my problem. My biggest obstacle is that most of the time I can’t remember what I promised to do for myself.

I’ve been trying to get my passport renewed for a month. My husband's IRRA is sitting in a money market fund earning paltry interest while there are allocation options only a signature page and stamp away. The only way I remember to take these magical fruit and vegetable pills my mom gives me is by a reminder I set on my outlook calendar at work. So I only take them 5 days a week. I even have reminders set to call or write to the people I love. That might sound like I’ve got the emotional depth of a robot, but doesn’t it really say that it means so much to me that I’ve added it to a prioritized list? Wouldn’t a callous person write it off altogether?

Just today I resorted to taping a piece of paper to my car keys thinking I’ll have to remember to bring my pre-natal vitamins to add to my regimen to work tomorrow if I have to rip the reminder off to start my car. (I’m not pregnant.)

I’ve heard weirder ideas. Writing notes and sealing them in plastic bags, taping them to your shower walls. Writing to yourself on your bathroom mirror…I’m seeing a theme – what’s next, to-do lists on the toilet paper?

My mother used to put sticky notes in conspicuous places, until we got so used to a sticky note on the coffee maker our minds erased it from our sight and our poor dog ended up neglected when my mom wasn’t around.

That’s the problem. We get used to reminders. We need new versions all the time. I think that’s sometimes a piece of why people fail to do things. Sometimes they just forget.

So – anyone else got some brilliant ideas for remembering to do things? I’m all ears.

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The Seven Year Shift

The seven year shift. I didn’t believe in it. As a 12 year old girl who didn’t know the meaning of a wrinkle, when my grade school Spanish teacher ran into her classroom bawling I didn’t know what the hell was wrong with her. “The Seven Year Shift!” She started screaming. We had no idea what she was talking about. So she issued the same warning, “The seven year shift... it happened, this morning!” Blank stares met her eyes full of fear and sadness.

See, Miss Kozewski was planning her wedding this school year, she’d post pictures of wedding dresses for us to vote on, and when a classroom full of 6th graders didn’t choose the one she wanted she just said, “Oh really? Well, I like the first one anyways.” She elaborated on the seven year shift without saying anything that could get her fired. It had to do with the weight of your body changing. Not up or down, but locations. She claimed that every seven years, there would be a sudden shift in weight distribution. She, in the middle of her fittings, marrying an archaeologist, (who just happened to be working in the same town my grandma lived!) was having trouble with some of her measurements.

I did not commiserate at all in 6th grade. But I do now. I have experienced my own seven year shift. At a ripe 27 years of age I am now the proud owner of a belly pooch. A pooch on my belly. This is different than belly fat. Belly fat is an evenly distributed amount of fat over the general abdominal area, and it doesn’t not affect how clothing looks all that much, you don’t have to look “fat” if you have an evenly distributed amount of fat. It’s the rolls and odd bulges and deposits of fat that make people look fat. So I’ve decided. I mean, there is a woman I’ve seen around who is very heavy, but her body proportions are so even and she can wear any style of clothing that she looks great, all the time. So – I don’t have anything against heavy people. It’s just that uneven fat distribution is my biggest pet peeve. On my own body, I think I’ve sufficiently discussed my disproportionately large thighs and ass. And now, a belly pooch. Even when I was 10 pounds heavier than I am today after graduating college, I did not have a pooch. The pooch appeared last week. Seven year shift. Damn it all.

There are certainly a lot more benefits of aging than the negatives of a pooch, so I’m going to try not to sweat it. I think that’s how God plans it. He gives you a little pooch just around the time you start to not give a damn anyways.

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Thunder Vegetable: A Haiku

Thunder, vegetable
Sudden heart stops its beating
Sitting, silent, gone

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How to Become Quiet

Whoever searched for this is not at a loss for words, but I am.

I don't know how to solve a problem like not being quiet enough. I'm not loud. I don't think. Actually, now that do think about it, everyone that sits by my cube at work has recently started shutting their doors. To get some peace and quiet. I tend to yell a lot at work. You know, the whole "Shouting to Quiet the Thunder" thing...

But seriously - someone out there wants to know how to be quiet. I'm going to take a stab at it.

1. Time Yourself. Maybe you need to build up a tolerance for it, like learning to hold your breath under water. Start with small increments, like 30 seconds, 1 minute. See how that works.

2. Hold your tongue, literally. I know this is sort of a slimy option, but it's very hard to talk while holding your tongue. Oh, and don't try to be funny and recite that old nursery rhyme that sounds like dirty words when you say it holding your tongue. That's just childish.

3. Eat more. No one likes people who chew with their mouths full. Maybe eating continuously can shame you into silence.

4. Become a security guard or some other branch of law enforcement. Similar to the grandson who learns to walk silently on dead leaves in the forest from his grandpa, the Eldest Indian Chief, in those bucolic First Settler movies - I'm pretty sure police officers, detectives and the like are trained in stealthy, and silent, maneuvers.

5. See your local religious leader. Every religious discipline has some sort of meditative ritual which encourages practioners to be silent. Go find a friendly man or woman of whatever cloth you find appealing. They will undoubtedly be trained in these sort of techniques, and perhaps, have the answers to some of the burning questions that may be causing you to speak against your own will.

6. Skip caffeine and go to bed. One day on our honeymoon, my husband and I thought we had just discovered a great new fall coffee flavor, only to find sometime around mid-afternoon we both felt drugged and had to take long mid-day naps. Upon awakening, we realized the coffee was decaf. I haven't slept that good, or had so little to say in ages.

I hope some of my ideas have helped whoever was looking for an answer. If not, be more specific next time!

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You're Searching for What?

I'm always amused by the list of keyword searches that lead people to my blog. A few all time favorites:

How to Become Quiet
Thunder Vegetable
"How I Met My Husband" "Jesus"

So, in honor of all the poor souls searching for answers only to find my blog - I'm going to dedicate a series of posts to them.

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