tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1323827107980168707.post3248287145699136725..comments2011-02-06T22:58:17.163-05:00Milenanoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1323827107980168707.post-84776044136165937372011-02-06T22:58:17.163-05:002011-02-06T22:58:17.163-05:00I have 4-1/2 months to graduate with my Master&#39;s. I work full-time too. I have had to take time off (a year one time, and several months another) from school in the past because of 2 things. 1. Money - couldn&#39;t afford it and just took classes when I could. 2. STRESS. I am working on my thesis and am an absolute stress monster when due dates come around. My stress has made me into a bitter, selfish and needy person and this has negatively affected every potentially serious relationship I start with a guy since being in grad school. I self-sabotage those relationships (I think) because I know they will distract me from my studies. I will be aloof and hold a guy at arms length for a little while, then open up just enough to like him because I WANT THE RELATIONSHIP, then I get stressed with due dates and being overwhelmed with work/school and when he doesn&#39;t respond according to my schedule - I panic and become needy, then he&#39;s gone and I&#39;m upset and can&#39;t concentrate. I feel foolish and pretty-much worthless. It&#39;s an utterly childish and ridiculous cycle. How do I stop preventing relationships before they even get a chance to blossom. I want to give 100% to school because that is for ME; something I&#39;ve worked very hard for and that will advance my career. But I also want to give 100% to a mature, adult relationship - maybe I&#39;m just not ready and should hold off on the &quot;love&quot; part until after graduation? Please advise....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1323827107980168707.post-24623465646446493792009-08-10T23:28:23.734-04:002009-08-10T23:28:23.734-04:00Wow, another great find from Twitter - that crazy site is surprising me right and left.<br /><br />Yup, I chose the cheaper, though less prestigious, school to save money and b/c they offered me a scholarship. Real world, real times.52 Faceshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05234139554435412232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1323827107980168707.post-35373406171014735962008-06-20T15:28:00.000-04:002008-06-20T15:28:00.000-04:00Great point about finances! I've been thinking about financing grad school a lot lately as I've been talking to a lot of people facing financial issues w/ the economic troubles of late. I actually just posted a post about being proactive about financing your grad school education on my blog that may be very relevant to readers:<BR/><BR/>http://interrobangblog.blogspot.com/2008/06/prosperous-grad-student-laying_19.htmlMatt Kushinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12575367528069835849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1323827107980168707.post-63532760367736400462008-06-14T08:58:00.000-04:002008-06-14T08:58:00.000-04:00@Kristina Summers<BR/><BR/>I have found the biggest difference in how I experience grad school and full time work is since I got married.<BR/><BR/>It's much different than before we were married, even when we were engaged I had no problem with classes, now they seem to grate on me. But it could also be professors and other stressors I've had since getting married.<BR/><BR/>But I applaud you! I read your post, it sounds like you have a very full life, but you will make it work!Milenahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12874760631554176315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1323827107980168707.post-82160261587478856092008-06-13T11:09:00.000-04:002008-06-13T11:09:00.000-04:00I almost wrote a post recently on this very subject. <BR/><BR/>I have just been accepted to grad school and I also work a full time job, oh and I have three kids....<BR/><BR/>There are those who tell me I am crazy but I love to learn and I love the atmosphere of school, even if all the late nights and stress absolutely suck! <BR/><BR/>I went to college while working full time and managed to do quite well so I know it's possible although I hear Grad school is a whole new ball game.<BR/><BR/>I have used many of your tips and I agree they are accurate. Having an awesome support network is also critical. <BR/><BR/>Great post!<BR/><BR/>Oh and if you can get out of those stupid tests do it! See my post about the GRE for a good laugh! <BR/><BR/>http://everydaypr.blogspot.com/2008/03/how-to-fail-gre.htmlKristina Summershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05783967134211616218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1323827107980168707.post-21741136731614753872008-04-21T07:22:00.000-04:002008-04-21T07:22:00.000-04:00@ ibrahim - thanks - hope this was useful for you!<BR/><BR/>@ jessica - I absolutely don't regret waiting to go to grad school. I wasn't ready and I'm glad I was able to hold off until I was. As for your second question, I can't imagine I am getting the same experience. For example, I can go to class, then walk into work the next day and chat about how what I learned directly affects our business. In grad school, it's all theory until you get to your summer internship or after your program is done. If I were you, start polling people who went right after college, and see what they say. Then make the decision you feel is best for you.<BR/><BR/>I think it also depends on your course of study, some disciplines make more sense to keep going, others can wait.Milenahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12874760631554176315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1323827107980168707.post-58112156637623239652008-04-21T01:02:00.000-04:002008-04-21T01:02:00.000-04:00Do you regret not going to grad school straight from college, and do you think you are getting the same experience going to grad school while working versus straight after college?Jessicaweb.mac.com/jessbahrnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1323827107980168707.post-49764880269635682032008-04-20T14:28:00.000-04:002008-04-20T14:28:00.000-04:00OMG, this is so sweet. Thanks for the postIbrahimnoreply@blogger.com