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I'm having to learn how to hit the delete button o...

2009-04-10T11:43:00.000-04:00

I'm having to learn how to hit the delete button or just ignore it when I start receiving certain criticisms. When people start attacking me, rather than what I'm talking about, I just delete it. Life's too short to read that stuff. It's definitely too short to argue with it when you know you've got no reason to feel defensive.

I've not had to deal with this... yet. But I'm mak...

2009-04-01T08:58:00.000-04:00

I've not had to deal with this... yet. But I'm making a mental note of this post for if/when I do. Thanks!

@DaveMurr - I can see it now...Zen and the Art of ...

2009-03-14T16:01:00.000-04:00

@DaveMurr - I can see it now...Zen and the Art of the Internet Smackdown...

I do in fact tend to think of myself as an e-Gladiator. That has a nice ring to it, doesn't it?

Someone should write a book!

There isn't mu...

2009-03-14T14:30:00.000-04:00

Someone should write a book!

There isn't much difference between living on online and being a gladiator at the height of the Roman Empire is there?

Thanks for writing this. I took a lot from it and ...

2009-03-13T03:44:00.000-04:00

Thanks for writing this. I took a lot from it and definitely felt understood.

Your blog is absolutely one of my favorites. You write honestly and without abandon. It's inspiring.

I am all about civil disagreements. It is a big pa...

2009-03-12T17:43:00.000-04:00

I am all about civil disagreements. It is a big part of my job. Being able to be confident enough to be honest is a huge hurdle to get over for people.

I feel like I hold back more online than I do in real life. I am used to having very robust debates with my family and friends about politics in particular. I try to bring it down online because I don't think it translates as well (and it seems as though everyone is a little more unhinged).

@Whoever -

As a side-note - in case any of...

2009-03-12T14:29:00.000-04:00

@Whoever -

As a side-note - in case any of you think I'm making veiled references to conversations I've had with you in particular - you can fairly confidently assume if you still read my blog posts, you are not one of my above-referenced mortal enemies. I'm guessing anyone who has hated me enough to attempt to publicly ridicule me has had enough by now.

We cool.

@Dave - thanks! I'm glad you like it. I only speak...

2009-03-12T14:20:00.000-04:00

@Dave - thanks! I'm glad you like it. I only speak from a place of having been routinely beaten down...heheh!

@Turbobrown - I know, it's sometimes hard to bite one's tongue. I definitely have problems with this at times. Maybe there should be a 10 minute rule too - or like my mom says, "When in doubt, don't!" This could apply to posting possibly inflammatory comments against someone else.

@Lance - As an FYI - you are definitely one of the people who's (sp?) opinion I respect.

Take our most recent exchange on P-Trunk's blog. We may still have some points of disagreement (haven't checked the comment stream recently), but you made great points relevant to the conversation, and I felt I learned something of value, without being personally attacked.

I think that's an important point. No matter how great the intrinsic value of your message is, it can be muddied or devalued by ineffective or overly-emotional delivery.

I'd like to pretend that never happens to me... : )

Great post. I have to admit, I am not an expert on...

2009-03-12T11:44:00.000-04:00

Great post. I have to admit, I am not an expert on the smackdown. I do think honesty with a bit of humility goes a long way though. If you're a good blogger, you build trust through being honest and being humble about your opinions. And being humble doesn't mean you can't have a strong opinion.

To me, it makes a big difference in how I react to other bloggers. That's why I feel comfortable reading a strong opinion from you. I am guessing a lot of people feel that way.

Sage advice for anyone with an online presence. Gr...

2009-03-12T11:29:00.000-04:00

Sage advice for anyone with an online presence. Great thoughts. There's something here both for those providing opinions and content and those responding to opinions and content.

When you feel particularly passionate about something that someone disagrees with it's easy to want to lash out at them. It's valuable to step back, assess their argument and respond, as you pointed out, to the content of their argument, not to the fact that they disagree with you.

Out of all the posts I've read from you, this migh...

2009-03-12T11:10:00.000-04:00

Out of all the posts I've read from you, this might be my favorite one yet!

Please, keep writing!