Comments on Quiet the Thunder: On Bragging Versus Confidence

On another note, I think this is a fantastic teach...

2009-08-22T18:45:02.848-04:00

On another note, I think this is a fantastic teaching tool:

"I will encourage them to sing in a way they might think is too loud, too obnoxious, too showy. Often, they end up with just the right amount of sound and energetic presentation because they are predisposed to holding everything in."

I used to have my English language students stand in pairs across the room from each other and try to have English conversations above the noise of their fellow classmates. They were relaxed, laughing, loud and ridiculous and it worked like a charm.

Glad you are being a patient teacher.

I struggle with the same thing. I can't stand bra...

2009-08-18T23:41:01.622-04:00

I struggle with the same thing. I can't stand bragging but I think its unfair to not ever say anything because that diminishes your accomplishments.

So, I've learned to just say it as fact. I don't add the part about me being so great just the facts.

Here's a sports example, "I scored 4 goals at the soccer game today. The final score was 5-3. We won." That's all fact. Clearly the person I'm speaking to can deduct my role in the game. This would be the alternative "This was my best game ever, you should have seen me. I scored 4 goals today. I was high-scorer on the team. My streak continues".

I hope that helps! I still often feel that I can get overlooked but I also think alot about bragging is subtly putting someone else down and I refuse to do that.

I think it makes a difference to have sometime of ...

2009-08-18T07:57:51.145-04:00

I think it makes a difference to have sometime of idea about what you're going to say before you say it. I find myself that if I don't, I ramble, make things up, get myself confused, start thinking "are they paying attention" and before I know it I'm asking the person I'm talking to "What was I saying again?"

I deal with the exact some problem! It's strange, ...

2009-08-17T22:02:29.926-04:00

I deal with the exact some problem! It's strange, because I know that I can do a lot of nerd-related things, often times far beyond what people even want / need. But when it comes time to 'sell' myself and my services, I shy away, or if I do get in there, I tend to not charge what I really know I am worth. Self confidence? I don't know if it's that or something else, but I'd love to find out.